Crossdressing Freedom

I hope this story is enjoyed by everyone who has the desire to wear clothes of the opposite sex and feel good about it. Wouldn't it be great to overcome your fears involved in being a cross dresser and have the freedom to walk down the street with your high heels on feeling good about yourself without a care in the world?

It isn't fair, women can wear men's clothes and get away with it! What happened to equal rights?  Sorry I am not here to change the world as we know it but that's how I used to feel. Luckily I found an answer which meant I could wear what I wanted, when I wanted, where I wanted without the usual fear of being an outcast of society.

My name is Zoe and although I am a man, I just love wearing women's clothing whenever I get the desire to. I would like to tell you my story purely because it might help you and others like you to pluck up the courage and do something about the feelings you have about cross-dressing. You may have your own reasons to crossdress, some men do it for sexual gratification or have a crossdressing fantasy, others because they enjoy the experience of feeling like a woman. Some crossdressers are professionals such as drag queens or escorts and others just like to wear silk knickers and stockings under their boring man clothes whilst they are at work. There are lots of different reasons and feelings as to why we would want to dress up in women's clothes.

No matter what your reasons are I don't want to bring up a debate if it is right or wrong, different or indifferent. I would however like to tell you about the one single thing that helped me break through finding out who I really wanted to be and how my life as a transvestite seemed to become complete. It took me a long time to come out of the closet and have the freedom to be myself whatever mood I was in. In fact it has taken me a long time to build up the confidence to share my crossdressing stories and photos here. I have one person to thank who really helped me overcome my deepest fears and would like to share with you what this person taught me.

Before I share my story with you I just want you to know that I understand that everybody's circumstances will be different than mine. You may be married with children living a happy content lifestyle or live either on your own or with a partner also enjoying life to the full. I cannot relate to everyone's individual circumstance but I do know that if you have read this far you either want to be a cross-dresser or you are already enjoying crossdressing as part of your life.

Perhaps you want to hold your head up high and feel good about yourself without feeling as though you are doing wrong or feel as though you are being frowned upon by other people with biased views who are living in this so called normal world. I spent many years trying to go about my normal everyday life without feeling bad about the fact that I was a secret crossdresser. Click to read chapter 2

I never looked at the note until I got home. I made myself a cup of coffee and sat down at the table. I then unfolded the note and spread it out in front of me. Jane had very neat handwriting and I read the note three times over. As a result of the note, a few months later and several coffees with Jane I too could walk, talk, behave and most of all look like a lady when I wanted too. I was amazed how I looked and I am sure that you would agree if you have been looking at my photos in each chapter of my story.

I did not realize that I could look this good and pass as a lady with my body and the very masculine looks that I had. The good thing was that I did not need to do anything genetically at all. All of the advice and information is purely cosmetic along with a bit of determination, training, persistence and bags of confidence.

I could now walk down the street either as a man or a woman, the decision was mine. If I felt like a ladies night out I would dig out my little black number, put on my shiny stockings and step into my 5 inch stilettos. The feeling is terrific and when I am dressed up looking like a real lady my confidence and personality shine through with it.

Well you have read this far and I am sure that you want to know the secret, well I will tell you using the advice and notes that Jane gave me plus some of my own advice in a step-by-step format. This guide helped me enjoy my life to the full for which I have gained a lot of like minded boy and girlfriends along my journey. Going back to the beginning of my story I mentioned that men crossdress or become transvestites for different reasons. As I said I am not hear to give direct advice on your specific desire or need, I just want to tell you what I did in order to complete my life without feeling like an outcast to society. The advice may suit some people to go that one step further than just cross dressing in private but it does not mean that you are no less of a man. A lot of information on the internet suggests that men want to crossdress not because there is anything wrong with them but it's just their anima. To find out more have a read of Jung's Anima but don't get too wrapped up in it as it is basically saying that every boy should have fun fun fun being a girl and that is why I and a lot of other crossdressers like me are having so much fun.

Crossdressing Secrets

When I unfolded the note that Jane gave me the first four words that Jane wrote down at the top was 'Are you having fun?' I looked at the words for a moment and then it clicked. There is absolutely no point doing something if you are not having fun doing it. You can enjoy the experience of crossdressing but having fun with that experience makes it so much more enjoyable. To have fun you need to be relaxed and maybe meet like minded people, to meet people you need to go out, to go out you need to feel confident, to feel confident you need to look good, to look good you need to know how, to know how you need information and help.

Now that you know the magic formula lets look at each step starting with information and help. On the next page you will review a guide book written by Jamie Young. I purchased this guide about a year ago which helped me a lot to get the right look and get comfortable with the basics. The book is is aimed at the beginner transvestite or closet crossdresser but also has some great tips and advice for anyone that just loves wearing high heels. If you want to improve on your image and take the next step in feeling more like a lady then this guide is most definitely for you.

Crossdressing Husband - Advice for the Female Partner

Have you either caught out or found out that your long term partner or husband cross dresses?

How did you feel when you found out?

I bet you wasn’t exactly over the moon was you?

Perhaps you went silent and listened to him or maybe you cried and screamed at him. Whatever you did I bet it was a great shock to you.

Now that you do know, it’s time to understand why he does it and what it means to both him and you.

A lot of crossdressers have a moral dilemma which is the fear of rejection, especially if they are in an established heterosexual relationship. For any crossdresser, telling their partner that they crossdress is a huge concern because let’s face it, it’s not exactly normal is it…or isn’t it? (more...)