Crossdressing Husband
Posted in Crossdressing Advice & Tips | By Zoe | Tags: Crossdresser, dress men, fear of rejection, female partner, full health, initial shock, moral dilemma, prehistoric times, Reasons for Crossdressing, term partner
Crossdressing Husband - Advice for the Female Partner
Have you either caught out or found out that your long term partner or husband cross dresses?
How did you feel when you found out?
I bet you wasn’t exactly over the moon was you?
Perhaps you went silent and listened to him or maybe you cried and screamed at him. Whatever you did I bet it was a great shock to you.
Now that you do know, it’s time to understand why he does it and what it means to both him and you.
A lot of crossdressers have a moral dilemma which is the fear of rejection, especially if they are in an established heterosexual relationship. For any crossdresser, telling their partner that they crossdress is a huge concern because let’s face it, it’s not exactly normal is it…or isn’t it?
One of the reasons you love your man is because he’s macho, the one who will protect you from danger and the one you feel safe and secure with. Going back to prehistoric times the man was the hunter and the provider.
I know this because I got a black eye once by someone who insulted my girlfriend, I stepped in and lamped him and he lamped me back. My girlfriend was forever grateful and she pampered me back to full health in ways that I only could imagine.
But how can he protect you if he’s wearing a dress!
Men crossdress for lots of different reasons and understanding the reason will go a long way towards the future of your relationship with him. Once you are over the initial shock take the time to listen what he has to say. Your partner will owe it to you to tell you as he has everything to loose if he doesn’t.
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February 8th, 2010 at 2:43 pm
hello,my name is donna and my boyfriend is a crossdresser even before we started dating he told me about it and i totally excepted this,i have never ben happier.the thing i am concerned about is that he also told me that he has ben with men but yet he doesn't trust me even though he says he is in love with me but i feel he would prefer to be with a man and yet he says he's not gay.
August 18th, 2010 at 12:33 am
I’m looking for advice! I suspect my boyfriend is Crossdressing, I find his 23 year old daughters panties, clothes or shoes stashed in various places around the house. sometimes my things or my 15 year old daughters things. when I have questioned him he gets very angry. The first few times he assured me it will not happen again. Nothing to worry about bla bla bla. But yet he rally never will tell me any truth. And I am one of the most understanding, tolerant, and patient woman you will ever meet! How do I ask him without starting a fight? in the last 8 months our relationship has suffered greatly. I love this man with all my heart and worship the ground he walks. please help me!!!!!!!!
thanks Donna D.
August 20th, 2010 at 9:45 pm
Hi Donna,
This is a difficult question to answer because there are lots of different reasons for your husbands actions.
The only advice I can give you is through my personal experience which is that he maybe embarrased about it and by being angry is his way of dealing with it to show how much of a man he is. This is how I acted at first towards anyone that questioned me.
One of the biggest fears of a crossdresser is the feeling of rejection from loved ones and ‘loosing face’ as a husband and a dad. Having an understanding wife is more of an exception rather than the rule so you will need to play it carefully in order to get to the bottom of it.
Maybe take him shopping and try on some outfits yourself. If you see something maybe whisper in his ear ‘I would like to see you in this’ to gauge his reaction. It may just open up a bit of conversation by letting him know that you are OK with it and just want to understand. Don’t push for answers straight away though!
You may get an angry response at first but it will be definately be playing on his mind on the way home.
Let me know how you get on.
Zoe xx