Comments for Crossdressing Freedom http://www.crossdressingfreedom.com Information, advice, tips, stories, videos, dating and pictures to all crossdressing men, partners and admirers Wed, 09 Nov 2011 14:26:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 Comment on Crossdressing Husband by CrimichDrop Dead Fred http://www.crossdressingfreedom.com/crossdressing-advice-and-tips/crossdressing-husband/comment-page-1/#comment-2593 CrimichDrop Dead Fred Wed, 09 Nov 2011 14:26:00 +0000 http://www.crossdressingfreedom.com/?p=65#comment-2593 Don't ask him. just smile and say "I love you and it's ok." Don’t ask him. just smile and say “I love you and it’s ok.”

]]> Comment on Crossdressing Husband by Drop Dead Fred http://www.crossdressingfreedom.com/crossdressing-advice-and-tips/crossdressing-husband/comment-page-1/#comment-2592 Drop Dead Fred Wed, 09 Nov 2011 14:18:00 +0000 http://www.crossdressingfreedom.com/?p=65#comment-2592  Let him.  There is no reason for you to be hurt by his behavior. If he did not love you he would not have married you.  His cross dressing has nothing to do with your own sexuality. The fact that he didn't tell you actually shows that he feared your disaproval and potentially loosing you.  I can honestly say (as a man) that the vast majority of the time our desceptions are more focused on a need to protect our families from being hurt than as a means of getting what we want or on occasion even need.   In a nut shell. The steriotypical male environment is one of strength, responsibility, sacrifice, and protection. These are the dictates that we as a social group place apon each other. Thay are ingrained within us from an early age. They are traditionally unflexable and therefor non allowing of any seeming weakness.  Weakness opens up the potential of someone else taking advantage of your family.   Allowing him the need to express his softer side is an issue of trust. In that it displays that You trust Him.  Without trust you have nothing. Without trust all these things traditionall ingrained in the male steriotype only serve to enslave him. Resentment will build and your marriage will faulter and most likly end because of it.  If you find it difficult to honer his needs due too your own discomfort and yet wish to maintain your relationship then my suggestion would be couples therapy to help you deal with the issue in hopefully a constructive manner. You may even try to provide him some private time to be himself once in a while if you are truely that uncomfortable with his crossdressing.  Just remember. This is a part of him. If you love him you need to love all of him. In every relationships there needs to be balance. In order to achieve this balance both sides need to make concessions. In an Ideal relationship no concessions are needed to achieve this balance. There are NO ideal relationships.  Let him.
 There is no reason for you to be hurt by his behavior. If he did not love you he would not have married you.
 His cross dressing has nothing to do with your own sexuality. The fact that he didn’t tell you actually shows that he feared your disaproval and potentially loosing you.
 I can honestly say (as a man) that the vast majority of the time our desceptions are more focused on a need to protect our families from being hurt than as a means of getting what we want or on occasion even need. 
 In a nut shell. The steriotypical male environment is one of strength, responsibility, sacrifice, and protection. These are the dictates that we as a social group place apon each other. Thay are ingrained within us from an early age. They are traditionally unflexable and therefor non allowing of any seeming weakness.
 Weakness opens up the potential of someone else taking advantage of your family. 
 Allowing him the need to express his softer side is an issue of trust. In that it displays that You trust Him.
 Without trust you have nothing. Without trust all these things traditionall ingrained in the male steriotype only serve to enslave him. Resentment will build and your marriage will faulter and most likly end because of it.
 If you find it difficult to honer his needs due too your own discomfort and yet wish to maintain your relationship then my suggestion would be couples therapy to help you deal with the issue in hopefully a constructive manner. You may even try to provide him some private time to be himself once in a while if you are truely that uncomfortable with his crossdressing.
 Just remember. This is a part of him. If you love him you need to love all of him. In every relationships there needs to be balance. In order to achieve this balance both sides need to make concessions. In an Ideal relationship no concessions are needed to achieve this balance. There are NO ideal relationships.

]]> Comment on Crossdressing Husband by Nikita http://www.crossdressingfreedom.com/crossdressing-advice-and-tips/crossdressing-husband/comment-page-1/#comment-2335 Nikita Sat, 22 Oct 2011 02:43:00 +0000 http://www.crossdressingfreedom.com/?p=65#comment-2335 I understand your feelings of liking womens clothing and how it feels on the body. You feel sexy and alluring. My husband after twelve years of marriage has just told me about his desire to dress in private like a woman. At first I was taken aback as I thought it meant he was telling me he was gay, but he says he is a lesbian in a mans body. Which ironically he is really saying he is gay just a lesbian. Our sex life has always been a struggle as I am like a man in my desires to have it often and he was like a woman who repeatedly rejected me with various excuses. Now he is making our love life more of a priority as I love him unconditionally. I like to treat him in bed like he is a woman by kissing his breasts and removing his bra to ravish him as I like to be ravished. Well I guess we have both become suto lesbians and he has a strap on that God gave him.  I am very appreciative and I feel he is so much more uninhibited.  I am ultra girlie and I adore dressing up in elegant fashions like Samantha from sex and the city. So I thought I would be open-minded as I have previously dressed up many of my gay friends in drag for shows. I dressed up my husband and made him up as I am a professional cosmetic artist. We discussed everything from my concerns of deceit and living a double life as he is a truck driver. I see him every two weeks on average for a short stints so trust is at the forefront in any relationship. He knows that I don't feel comfortable with him cross dressing when he is away as this is all new for me.Ultimately we are soul mates and for all I know in my past life I could have been the man and he the woman. God definately has a sense of humor and his grace helps me see that I am truly blessed for my princess husband. Girl power! I pray for your wife's understanding and compassion. You will both get through this. Best wishes! I understand your feelings of liking womens clothing and how it feels on the body. You feel sexy and alluring. My husband after twelve years of marriage has just told me about his desire to dress in private like a woman. At first I was taken aback as I thought it meant he was telling me he was gay, but he says he is a lesbian in a mans body. Which ironically he is really saying he is gay just a lesbian. Our sex life has always been a struggle as I am like a man in my desires to have it often and he was like a woman who repeatedly rejected me with various excuses. Now he is making our love life more of a priority as I love him unconditionally. I like to treat him in bed like he is a woman by kissing his breasts and removing his bra to ravish him as I like to be ravished. Well I guess we have both become suto lesbians and he has a strap on that God gave him.  I am very appreciative and I feel he is so much more uninhibited.  I am ultra girlie and I adore dressing up in elegant fashions like Samantha from sex and the city. So I thought I would be open-minded as I have previously dressed up many of my gay friends in drag for shows. I dressed up my husband and made him up as I am a professional cosmetic artist. We discussed everything from my concerns of deceit and living a double life as he is a truck driver. I see him every two weeks on average for a short stints so trust is at the forefront in any relationship. He knows that I don’t feel comfortable with him cross dressing when he is away as this is all new for me.Ultimately we are soul mates and for all I know in my past life I could have been the man and he the woman. God definately has a sense of humor and his grace helps me see that I am truly blessed for my princess husband. Girl power! I pray for your wife’s understanding and compassion. You will both get through this. Best wishes!

]]> Comment on Caught Crossdressing by Pete http://www.crossdressingfreedom.com/stories/closet-crossdresser-stories/caught-crossdressing/comment-page-1/#comment-2334 Pete Wed, 19 Oct 2011 20:16:00 +0000 http://www.crossdressingfreedom.com/?p=1518#comment-2334 As someone whose wife is struggling with my crossdressing, it was nice to hear how it can work out sometimes Pete normandie As someone whose wife is struggling with my crossdressing, it was nice to hear how it can work out sometimes
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]]> Comment on Why Do Men Crossdress? by Jason http://www.crossdressingfreedom.com/crossdressing-opinions/why-do-men-crossdress/comment-page-1/#comment-2333 Jason Wed, 19 Oct 2011 03:35:00 +0000 http://www.crossdressingfreedom.com/?p=860#comment-2333 Hi , I'm not sure. But I think I just like the clothes and it makes me feel good inside and out. I'm not as into it as most others as in , I don't really wear skirts and dresses. But I do wear girls clothes everyday and I love the way it make me feel. I also feel I'm ment to be pretty. Hi , I’m not sure. But I think I just like the clothes and it makes me feel good inside and out. I’m not as into it as most others as in , I don’t really wear skirts and dresses. But I do wear girls clothes everyday and I love the way it make me feel. I also feel I’m ment to be pretty.

]]> Comment on Crossdressing Husband by Trish http://www.crossdressingfreedom.com/crossdressing-advice-and-tips/crossdressing-husband/comment-page-1/#comment-2332 Trish Mon, 10 Oct 2011 16:53:00 +0000 http://www.crossdressingfreedom.com/?p=65#comment-2332 I had been dating my boy friend for 6 months before I found out that he is a cross dresser. Was I surprised, OH yea , because I had never met such a manly man. He is a police officer and goes fishing and all of the usual manly things but thinking back I had caught him I could see that softer side of him. I had gotten to his house early and decided to fold his laundry and found panties and bras and nighties in the laundry so being the curious type I am I looked in his dresser and found a whole drawer full of panties and another with bras. He has more than I do lol. Anyway when he got home about 30 minutes later I asked him about them. I didnt confront him because that would only have made the conversation harder. He had a scared look in his eyes and told me about his dressing and that he had been doing it since he was a teenager. He now in his 40s. As we talked I realized this wasnt justa "thing" for him, it was a nicessity. I also realized that the man I have fallen in love with was still the same man but I had just found out something else about him. We must ahve spent 2 hours talking and he showed me all of his cloths and modeled some for me. That was almost 6 months ago and since then I have moved in with him. I support him with his dressing and actually enjoy it. We have nights that we have some great girl time and then there are nights that I want a full man in bed with me and he understabds and has no problem with it. I guess what I am saying is that ladies if you had a good husband before you found out he is a crossdresser then you need to realize that his dressing is probably part of the reason he is that good man. I would bet that if you really look at yourself he has accepted things about you that he could have walked away from. After reading so much on here and the rest of the internet I fully understand why crossdressers are afraid to come out with it. Talk to him and support him. Let him know your concerns and limits. Other than sometimes wanting him in bed as a man I have no limits. In fact I have started to encourage him to go out dressed. Guess what had happened, our relationship gets stronger daily. I had been dating my boy friend for 6 months before I found out that he is a cross dresser. Was I surprised, OH yea , because I had never met such a manly man. He is a police officer and goes fishing and all of the usual manly things but thinking back I had caught him I could see that softer side of him.

I had gotten to his house early and decided to fold his laundry and found panties and bras and nighties in the laundry so being the curious type I am I looked in his dresser and found a whole drawer full of panties and another with bras. He has more than I do lol. Anyway when he got home about 30 minutes later I asked him about them. I didnt confront him because that would only have made the conversation harder. He had a scared look in his eyes and told me about his dressing and that he had been doing it since he was a teenager. He now in his 40s. As we talked I realized this wasnt justa “thing” for him, it was a nicessity. I also realized that the man I have fallen in love with was still the same man but I had just found out something else about him. We must ahve spent 2 hours talking and he showed me all of his cloths and modeled some for me. That was almost 6 months ago and since then I have moved in with him. I support him with his dressing and actually enjoy it. We have nights that we have some great girl time and then there are nights that I want a full man in bed with me and he understabds and has no problem with it.

I guess what I am saying is that ladies if you had a good husband before you found out he is a crossdresser then you need to realize that his dressing is probably part of the reason he is that good man. I would bet that if you really look at yourself he has accepted things about you that he could have walked away from. After reading so much on here and the rest of the internet I fully understand why crossdressers are afraid to come out with it. Talk to him and support him. Let him know your concerns and limits. Other than sometimes wanting him in bed as a man I have no limits. In fact I have started to encourage him to go out dressed. Guess what had happened, our relationship gets stronger daily.

]]> Comment on Why Do Men Crossdress? by madeline http://www.crossdressingfreedom.com/crossdressing-opinions/why-do-men-crossdress/comment-page-1/#comment-2023 madeline Wed, 28 Sep 2011 21:28:00 +0000 http://www.crossdressingfreedom.com/?p=860#comment-2023 I`m in my 50s and I`ve been crossdressing since I was 12. My lady friend who is older than I accepts it and she lets me keep my femme clothes at her house.  She especially likes to see me dressed as a Frech schololgirl. She even calls me Madeline. I never really had a femme name, but I love it! I generally dress conservatively, and I love lingere, stockings-not pantyhose, corsets, girdles, swimwear, long dresses and skirts, and evenng gowns. I HATE to wear pats. I`m in my 50s and I`ve been crossdressing since I was 12. My lady friend who is older than I accepts it and she lets me keep my femme clothes at her house.  She especially likes to see me dressed as a Frech schololgirl. She even calls me Madeline. I never really had a femme name, but I love it! I generally dress conservatively, and I love lingere, stockings-not pantyhose, corsets, girdles, swimwear, long dresses and skirts, and evenng gowns. I HATE to wear pats.

]]> Comment on Crossdressing Men by stephine http://www.crossdressingfreedom.com/crossdressing-opinions/crossdressing-men/comment-page-1/#comment-2022 stephine Thu, 22 Sep 2011 16:01:00 +0000 http://www.crossdressingfreedom.com/?p=93#comment-2022 Hi Cristal.I must have just been lucky.Because I've never had any problems.I do ask most of the time if I can try the items on.Sometimes the sale's people will walk with me and open a stall for me. good luck. Hi Cristal.I must have just been lucky.Because I’ve never had any problems.I do ask most of the time if I can try the items on.Sometimes the sale’s people will walk with me and open a stall for me. good luck.

]]> Comment on Crossdressing Men by Stephine http://www.crossdressingfreedom.com/crossdressing-opinions/crossdressing-men/comment-page-1/#comment-2021 Stephine Thu, 22 Sep 2011 15:55:00 +0000 http://www.crossdressingfreedom.com/?p=93#comment-2021 I feel the same.My wife and i go's shopping together.I'm busting at my crotch to get home and wear what ever we have bought.I can go from non horny to a hot sex slave in seconds. I feel the same.My wife and i go’s shopping together.I’m busting at my crotch to get home and wear what ever we have bought.I can go from non horny to a hot sex slave in seconds.

]]> Comment on My Closet Crossdresser Secret by Brian http://www.crossdressingfreedom.com/crossdressing-opinions/my-closet-crossdresser-secret/comment-page-1/#comment-1670 Brian Sat, 16 Jul 2011 11:56:00 +0000 http://www.crossdressingfreedom.com/?p=1595#comment-1670 i read what ur all saying but id like to know where you can go to dress up are there any private places where you can go and relax without being discoverd or even leave your clothes, Bryony. i read what ur all saying but id like to know where you can go to dress up are there any private places where you can go and relax without being discoverd or even leave your clothes, Bryony.

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